African women need the Afro Kitchen tradition

Trust me ladies, if you can cook like heaven's chef, practically every men on earth would love you and you will as well be able to build the shapes and postures you've ever wanted.

Let me tell you one reason why people engage in useless, unnecessary daily exercises.
It is because they will never COOK at home! They just want to do away with the tradition; which is helpful in many ways

Change your thinking. Get yourself mortars and pestles today, one for pepper, one for pounded yam, one for 'ogbonor' seed, etc,and see if you'll find it necessary running the streets or attending gyms.

The problem is, we live our lives too pretentiously to be like 'WHITES' and always want to define things too exotically leaving out those things attached to us and would hardly metamorphose even when we tend to ignore them.

The point of my whole junk is that, all these home chores some people avoid are as well 'exercises'. You want to look good?

Start pounding yam today.
You want to have good looking arms, grab the pestles today.
You want to have good looking round bum-bum like Kardashian, pound some yams today.
You want that thin belly and big hips? Pound pepper and vegetables.
You want nice curves, pound some onions and other spices.
You want big boobs, please, pound melon.
You want sexy laps and legs, just keep pounding yams.

Each comes in different size and shape. Altogether they serve different purposes in the kitchen and in your body. Some can help build your wrist, some build your waist, some improve hips sizes and many more functionalities you can't even imagine.

That is my recommendation for you.
Gym engagements could be stressful than kitchen engagements trust me

Men if your wives are fucking too lazy to cook for you, you are not married yet and the search hasn't ended. You'll keep searching for a good cook and one with good posture. If she doesn't want stress, she should go home and not to the gym.

World AIDS DAY

World AIDS Day

Government and health officials, non governmental organizations and individuals around the world observe the day, often with education on AIDS prevention and control.

Spread the WORD and not the VIRUS meanwhile don't stigmatize those living with the virus, you can't get it by living with them except you have sex with them or share materials that can cut through the skin with them.

A friend in the early hours of today said having anal sex with them can't promote transmission of the disease 😄😃 My friend you're wrong

Anal sex is the highest risk sexual behavior. Receptive anal sex “bottoming” is riskier than insertive anal sex “topping”.

Aids can be transmitted through the following

Blood
Semen
Pre-seminal fluid
Rectal fluids
Vaginal fluids
Breast milk

BUT NOT through

Air or water
Insects, including mosquitoes or ticks
Saliva, tears, or sweat
Casual contact, like shaking hands, hugging or sharing dishes/drinking glasses
Drinking fountains
Toilet seats
Swimming pools

Every 1st of December we raise the awareness, mourn those that have died of the disease and show love to those living with it.

The campaign continues, stronger,better and informative. When it started in 1988 it sounded as if those health professionals talking about it were clueless; when they said it has no cure. Later on those living with AIDS were stigmatized. But now we got more information than we had back then. So we can coexist in their midst without having issues except if....... LOL.....

Happy World AIDS Day

SELF-INJURY

Self-injury is when you hurt yourself as a way of dealing with very difficult feelings, overwhelming situations, past experiences. It is when somebody intentionally damages or injures their body. It is usually a way of coping with or expressing overwhelming emotional distress.

However, the intention is to punish themselves, express their distress or relieve unbearable tension. It is a mixture of all in some cases. Many who injure themselves use it as a measure to cry for help.

The act looks much like suicidal, therefore it becomes very confusing and frightening for people who witnessed it but doesn't understand self-injury to figure it out.

Self injury involves the following behaviors

Burning oneself
Cutting the skin
Jumping from high-rise
Drug overdose
Punching oneself with objects

The causes of Self-Injury include

Financial worries
Sexual abuse
Physical abuse
Mental Health Problems
Relationship breakup
Depression
Recurring issues
Pressures

However self-injury is bad but some individuals can't cope with certain emotional problems, they rather settle for a self inflicted injury on themselves as a means of transforming emotional pains into physical pains.

Advertisement has Concepts

Just wondering at the crass stupidity exhibited by the Vitamilk advert where a lady wax trapped in an accidented car, and a "superman" comes over, riding a bike and physically removes the door.

My thought

First, is the lady so stupid that she didn't realize that she could break the glass and get out?

Second, did the super-hero have to risk the vehicle going up in flames by doing a trial of strength, when he could have broken the glass and pulled her to safety?

Advertisements are used to grow your brand and stand out of the crowd.
To having an effective advertisement CREATIVITY is critical

The use of creativity to display an art which posses greater meaning than the capabilities of a product is absolutely wrong.
Knowing how to use creativity to deliver powerful messages is the key.

Think about advertising concepts and not JOKES.

Happy World Toilet Day

It is WTD

The spread of many transmitted diseases such as diarrhoea can be connected to a condition called environmental enteropathy which is caused by exposure to human feces.

Poor sanitation hygiene is dangerous to health. Hand washing basins must be provided to promote hand washing behaviors.

Having to defecate in the open infringes on human safety and dignity. Females find it difficult to use public toilets to avoid cases of rape in unsafe places where public toilets are located.

Having to hold urine in the bladder for many hours is dangerous to internal organs.

Today is WORLD TOILET DAY. Let's promote the creation of more toilets and ensure they are made clean and in secure places. Together we shall ensure our environment is clean and healthy also together we shall battle diseases that can be prevented instead of having to cure them when they sprout out.

Various forms of sexy toilets have emerged lately, I'm sure men won't find it irritating to hug big booties while they urinate but women might find it crazy sitting on a guy's lap while observing urination especially if was an animated one. 😄

Happy (WTD) World Toilet Day.

Don't ask too much

As humans most of us are always in dire need of help from each other and from the celestial being "God".

This has resulted in demading the necessary and unnecessary from the Creator, many believers are now caught asking for things that they do not need at the moment. We now see some of them praying and fasting for things that would be needed in their future.

The questions now is this; is it right or wrong to ask God for things that will be needed in the future?
Or based on the fact that God said ask and it shall be given, we can keep asking for things in excess even for days we do not know if we would yet live to witness?

NOTE: The soul may ask God for anything, and never fail because the asks for strenght needed for the moment only.

Praying, we usually ask too much. Sometimes we even demand. I think I am learning to ask enough for the moment not for the whole year, utterly veiled in mystery; not even for the week, the month ahead; but just for today.

Jesus said it all when He told us to pray: 'Give us this day our daily bread.
That bread is not only material, a combination of the physical and spiritual; in asking for it, we ask for a sufficiency of strength, courage, hope and light.

Enough courage for the step ahead not for the further miles. Enough strength for the immediate task or ordeal. Enough material gain to enable us to meet our daily obligations. Enough light to see the path right before our feet.

The field of asking is fundamentally improvisational. It thrives not in the creation of rules and etiquette but in the smashing of that etiquette.
Which is to say: there are no rules. Or, rather, there are plenty of rules, but honestly we got to follow the specification as given by Christ. Or has the specification been subjected to change without notice ? 

What do you have that the Lord didn’t provide?
What do you need that the Lord can’t provide?

Curiosity fueled our determination to keep questioning and wanting more, we had enough yet we can't perceive sufficiency.

Create a sacred space to learn more about your body and mind, go on a date with yourself and explore emotions, sensation, desires, dreams, and accept yourself as you are. By spending some time getting to know yourself better, you will know what you have, have to offer and, it will be easier to ask for what you want for the day.

Gather enough manna for this day and not for tomorrow. Gather for morrow and it'll rot.
All we needed the Lord has provided.

Coffee inflates and deflates the breast.

There is a link between coffee and breast size which every woman must put into consideration.

According to researchers, three cups a day was enough to start making breasts shrink, with the effects increasing for every cup drunk.

There is a clear link between drinking coffee and smaller breasts as around half of all women possess a gene that has been shown to link breast size to coffee intake.

CYP1A2*1F is a gene that's associated with breast cancer. A woman with this gene will loose cleavage size, should she take much of caffeine while women without this gene will experience breast inflation.

Coffee-drinking women do not have to worry that their breasts will shrink to nothing overnight. They will get smaller, but the breasts aren't just going to be smaller but they'll become more succulent and the risk of having breast cancer will be reduced greatly.

This would serve as a disadvantage to women that would prefer to parade with gigantic bursts and a plus to those who prefer smaller bra cups.

So unless you believe your breasts are pyramid shaped, don’t worry too much about the coffee induced booby trap.

I remember a lady once said she's the one with the smallest burst in her family, when I investigated it was found that she was the only one taking COFFEE in her family.

Well it's not healthy having very big burst most especially if you possess CYP1A2*1F.

Since coffee inflates and deflates The breast. Isn't it's intake a measure to knowing your stand locally?
Don't entertain coffee if you want a big burst.

Motivation Theory

Motivation theory includes the ideas and doings with which employees are encouraged to do what is really expected of them. Motivation is the inspiration to work; it brings about determination through which an employee can achieve a tangible objective by fulfilling intrinsic needs, capturing attention, or hooking into evolved motivational systems. Motivation goes hand in hand with being equipped. Equipping refers to the provision of skills and materials, with which a job can be achieved, while motivation is from the inside, being equipped is the push from the outside. These two creates an atmosphere of confidence, fairness and hard-working.
A good manager must be able to motivate his\her workers effectively; some of the following practice might be embraced in order to achieve positive results.

1.Creating an atmosphere of respect and regard
2.Creating an effective problem solving method
3.Being strict and not harsh
4.Being approachable
5.Effective communication skills

If the above were established, there will be peace and cooperation, every worker will find it pleasing when coming to their office every day, results would be achieved and customers will be well attended to without delay and complains. It would be very easy for every worker to reflect on their practice as well and share good practice with their colleagues.

In every situation there is usually a challenge that lies ahead, but if it has been considered in the constitution of the organization then there would have been a provision that will ensure that when these future challenges surface they will not be as adverse as they ought to have been simply because they have been considered right from the start, this is an attribute of the quality organization.

Quality organization helps in many ways because it solves problems that have not been imminent. It helps to ensure that the right management theory is used; it also help during the time of hiring hands into the organization because the right kinds of persons are contracted. There is this type of management theory which is effective, it is known as the scientific theory; it is that which ensures that a worker is made a better worker through the use of trainings, workshops and more. It has been effective in places where it has been permitted. This is part of having a quality organization in place. Quality organization helps in achieving a mission and vision statement without lags or confusions if it is was in place.

Deal with EGO

How our inner Ego sometimes misjudges a PERSON!!!

Just because someone is flashy or dresses flamboyant doesn't mean they are rich.
Just because someone acts holy and talks holy doesn't mean they have true relationship with God.
Just because someone has a beautiful face doesn't mean they have a beautiful heart.
Just because someone has dreadlocks on their head doesn't mean they are irresponsible.
Just because someone is gentle/quiet looking doesn't mean they ain't wicked.
Just because someone is a single mum doesn't make her a bad woman.

Most of the time we judge people by their outer appearance, which can be misleading. And in this impression, we tend to treat people badly by thinking they can do nothing for us. Never judge a book by it's cover.

Thus we tend to lose our potential good friends, employees or customers. I have been around for a while and I have seen alot. (Agba okan ogbon, Oluwa nise ogbon) meaning Age has nothing todo with wisdom ONLY GOD gives wisdom

Remember In our Life, we seldom get people with whom we want to share & grow our thought process. But because of our inner EGO we miss them forever.

Deal with your ego and most importantly try as much to understand people's predicaments before writing them off, most of the time we find it arduous to forgive people for their mistakes or probably the loss they have caused us. It will lead to a situation whereby we will find it herculean to deal with other friends, colleagues and strangers, but since we cannot do without them, we will  in an unacceptable manner.

Too much ego will kill your talent also leave your ego otherwise everyone will leave you.

Investigate the concept behind an error and not necessarily the error itself.

Things you should know before you cheat (Rod Arters)

It seems that every 3 months or so we learn of another celebrity caught cheating on his or her spouse. To say adultery is an epidemic in our current culture is an understatement. And it doesn’t seem to be a respecter of position. Regardless of what we do for a living, (Politicians, Pastors, teachers, athletes, actors, musicians, etc) cheaters are in our midst. It seems to be so prevalent today that the question isn’t who is cheating but rather – who isn’t?

Too many treat their most important relationships casually and their commitments to them as optional. Our microwave society mentality (quick and easy) has infiltrated our most sacred institution, marriage. Many cheaters try to justify their reasons for infidelity. To a cheater, their reasons make sense. Perfect sense. To those who have never strayed they just don’t understand why.

Our thirst for affairs has become so accepted and normal in our culture that most shows on television mention an infidelity reference somewhere throughout the episode. Not to be outdone, we even have a reality show (called Cheaters) that is designed to reveal an indiscretion and exploit the humiliation on national television. Honestly, I’m not sure which is worse – the immoral action of the cheater or the people who produce the show. The fact that the series is in its 12th season is an indictment against us. I’m not sure which is more devastating – discovering your lover’s unfaithfulness or discovering the crushing news at the same time as the train-wreck watching public.
We live in a very sad day and age. I have seen first-hand the destruction of adultery. Cheating devastates relationships and shatters dreams. If you have entertained the idea of cheating on your spouse or significant other, let this serve as your official warning.

Your handsome boss, cute office secretary or sultry neighbor down the street comes with a price tag that you cannot afford. Before you cheat here are 14 things you really need to know

1. You will become a liar. It’s bad enough to bear the title of “Cheater,” but if you cheat, you will also wear the hat of “Liar.” Cheating cannot occur without deceit on some level and normally the white lies in the beginning become full-fledged lies at the end. “ I’m working late at the office tonight ” may be a half-truth but you’ll need to redefine the word “working” to silence your compromised conscience. Cheating and lying go hand in hand.

2. You will get caught. It may not be today. It may not be tomorrow. But eventually, your affair will come to light. Your world will come crashing down on you. If you are fortunate, the story of your indiscretion may avoid the evening news or the front page of your local paper, but your circle of friends will know your deeds. And everyone likes to share juicy news. Your poor decision will become as public as a billboard. It’s not a matter of if but when. As Pastor Rick Warren tweeted recently, “ If the Director of the CIA can’t hide and cover up an affair, no one can .” As the Chinese proverb goes, “ If you don’t want anyone to know it, don’t do it.”

3. You will disappoint everyone. Everyone. Your spouse. Your friends. Your co-workers. Your God. Your parents. Your nephew. Your children. Yourself. The disappointment you cause will be like the stench of skunks and it will take a long time to remove the smell.

4. You will be a bad example. Everyone is either a good example or a bad example in all things that we do. Cheating is a not only a very bad example in relationships but brings with it a cloud of doubt that hovers over you in other areas of your life. If you cheated in one area, would you cheat in another?
Cheating communicates to everyone that you took the easy road. It tells others that you were willing to cut corners in your most primary relationship. It reveals that you were not willing to do the hard work and get the help you needed. No one ever admires a cheater. No one looks up to an adulterer. Even if you did a lifetime of good, this one bad deed can erase it all.

5. You will lose your moral authority. It’s hard to tell your children (or others) to do the right thing when they know you didn’t. Saying “ Do as I say, not as I do ” is the fastest way to lose the respect of others. Not only will you lose their respect, you’ll lose yours. Every moral judgment you make in the future will be weighed against your adulterous action of the past. It doesn’t mean you can’t speak the truth in the future, it just means that few will listen to you.

6. You will create trust issues for your spouse. Forever. You will single-handedly damage the precious self-esteem of the one you promised to love. Every relationship they have after you will be one that they struggle to trust. If that were not enough, you will rock the world of children and cause them to question the stability of every meaningful relationship they have. For children, their parents relationship is their anchor and cheating cuts the line.

7. You will lose your standard of living. Depending on what you do for a living, you may lose your job. Many lose their home. Most end up with enormous court fees since cheating is usually the precursor to divorce.
Betrayed spouses have a way of making you pay and that payment is always expensive. Every check you write is a constant reminder of your foolishness.

8. You will spend years trying to rebuild your life. Literally years. Even if you somehow weathered the storm financially, you will find it takes years for you to recover emotionally. It takes years for you to restore certain friendships, if you even do. It takes years for you to rebuild your character. It takes years to rebuild trust. It takes years to truly forgive yourself.

9. You will lose relationships. You will lose a LOT of relationships. Lifelong friends will walk away. Close friends that you have helped countless times will not be around to help you. Even some family members who are supposed to love you no matter what will vanish. A cheater can end up living a very lonely life. It’s hard for many people who used to call you friend to get past that skunk smell of disappointment.

10. You will increase your chances of getting an STD. Sexually transmitted diseases run rampant among promiscuous people. But your paramour is “clean,” right? After all, they told you so. And if there is one thing we all know – we can trust a cheater and their word. As the saying goes, “There is honor among thieves.” One helpful thought may be to assume that everyone but your spouse has an STD. That should curb your appetite for destruction.

11. The grass is not greener on the other side. The “grass is greener” idea is a common misconception. Because we have never been on that grass, we assume it must be better than where we currently stand. It’s not. In fact, though it may look greener from a distance – once you get there and make yourself comfortable, something interesting happens – the grass changes color. This usually happens soon after you get caught. You will then see that patch of land differently. You will also have a strange desire for the green grass you left… except now it is burned and won’t let you back. The best way to enjoy green grass is to water your own yard.

12. Would you want this done to you? Thieves like to steal wallets but hate when it’s done to them.
If we all lived by the Golden Rule (“Treat others the way you want to be treated .”) most of life’s problems would be solved overnight. Think about this action as if it were being done to you. The problem is that it requires thought and thinking is often the last thing a cheater has on his/her mind.

13. You will eventually regret this decision. In the heat of the moment, cheating appears to make sense. It feels good and sometimes even feels right. Feelings are deceitful. Soon afterward, your eyes will be opened and you will regret that you ever partook of the forbidden fruit.
Don’t we all have enough regrets in our lives? Why add another one – particularly one that can only destroy everything you have worked so hard to build? Your home may not be perfect but it sure beats living in a tent.

14. The pain outweighs the gain. No one ever says from their deathbed, I wish I would have had an affair. No one ever leaves their lawyer’s office with a smile on their face – grateful for the experience. No one loses dear friends and is glad they have one less Christmas card to receive this year. The loss is immeasurable. The pain can be unbearable. Entire kingdoms can be lost for a few minutes of pleasure. It is just not worth it.

As I read the Bible with a humble set of eyes these days, I see that the Book is filled with great men and women who have fallen in some pretty huge ways. God picks them up and uses them in spite of their past. I’ve come to learn that we all fall, just in different ways.

“ The Official blog of Rod Arters ."

Sin is anything bad

Sin is every thing that is wrong. Sin is no laughing matter restricted to religion
alone. Sin is an Offence (against the divine law), transgression, iniquity, unrighteousness, wickedness, moral depravity, wrong, delinquency.
If moral depravity and wickedness have been found to be sinful acts then we should take to cognizance that sins are not against the divine law or being only. It must be estimated as any entity that's not accepted physically and spiritually; man and God alongside self and soul. 👍

The god of the moon in Sumerian mythology is also called sin. What a nomenclature?
I hope they won't use that as an opportunity to adopt heinous offences. 😀

Complain ?

I think it’s natural for people to complain. Everyday we’re faced with a lot of reasons to complain: they shouldn’t be doing this they should be doing that, it shouldn't be this much, shouldn't be this little, etc.

Having the occasional complaint is fine. To expect a life without complaining (by you or others) is unrealistic.

Lack of empathy leads to complain. A lot of times we complain because we lack empathy for others. Think about this: You complain that someone isn’t getting things right, they should be doing it this way because that’s what we would do if
we were in that position. When we lack empathy we aren’t able to fully put ourself in the other persons place. We don’t know the thoughts going through their head or what other complexities they are facing in their lives as at that point in time.

Some people are just genuinely unhappy. They will refuse to find joy in any/every aspect of their life and when you do so much to please them you'll end up being the source of their unhappiness. Genuinely unhappy people will settle for a complain as a measure to express their dissatisfaction with their life and in many situations it’s used as a coping mechanism as well. Always remember that life is not a race for material things be grateful always.

Complain today and complain tomorrow leads to tiredness
Tiredness kills the spirit of going on
Tired today and Tired tomorrow leads to fed up.
Fed up leads to laziness; laziness to being stagnant then to unseriousness which will eventually lead to RESIGNATION

Solution
Be grateful, be constructive when expressing your dissatisfaction and change your perspective. Turn that energy into something positive.

Attitude be read ?

How to read a person's character
Considering that we're humans and it would be very difficult to read our minds. As a matter of fact it has been unearthed that we find it difficult to read our own minds effectively.

These 4 elements might help us read a person's mind

Graphical Attitudes
Periodical Attitudes
Qualitative Attitudes
Quantitative Attitudes

While graphical refers to the things a person does physically, periodical prefers to the regular things/events in the persons character, qualitative deals with the accredited characters in such a person and quantitative will help define how active the person is.

The problem is that once the qualitative expectation wasn't met most readers will draw a conclusion that such a person is bad and useless.

Unfortunately ATTITUTE is everything, change your attitude and change your life.
If attitudes can be improved on then whichever evaluation can as well become useless in no time.

CONCLUSION:
You can not read anyone since we're not static because the reading that has been found to be accurate today will become inaccurate in few years time.

Just in case

If you wake up one day, only to discover that your whole life has been recorded and was going to be shown in a cimena.

How will you feel watching your past?
Most especially if you've not changed. Yeah it has been understood that people change over time but what if you'd gone worse ?

I'm sure I had lots of crazy, heinous and stupid stuffs I did in the past, also I'm sure no one will be bored out cos it'll be action packed, lastly I've changed for the better.

What about you ?

CHARACTERS

CHARACTER inversely proportional to RESEMBLANCE and directly proportional to RESPONSIBILITY and equals ENVIRONMENT while in constant with DISCIPLINE

LOOK like your father and BEHAVE like mama both 'll be in partial ratio to ABSOLUTE you; and your RESPONSIBILITY will be a product of your ENVIRONMENT which will be in constant with your DISCOURSE

People do not drift toward holiness. Apart from grace-driven effort, people do not gravitate toward godliness, prayer, obedience to Scripture, faith, and delight in the Lord. We drift toward compromise and call it tolerance; we drift toward disobedience and call it freedom; we drift toward superstition and call it faith. We cherish the indiscipline of lost self-control and call it relaxation; we slouch toward prayerlessness and delude ourselves into thinking we have escaped legalism; we slide toward godlessness and convince ourselves we have been liberated.